Break ups are devastating experiences, especially if you are still in love with your ex. The situation becomes worse if your ex does not answer your phone calls. Breaking up can really be painful and tough, especially if we do not learn how to deal with it effectively. So follow the guide below to get you on the right track to get a woman back. I am going to enter into a discussion about the psychology of attraction and how you can use that to your advantage to get your ex back if you understand how this stuff really works.

Let me give you an example. Different people meet their partners in different places, so it is almost impossible to cater for every scenario here. But let’s consider one and from that you can no doubt extrapolate other examples in your own head. Let’s say for the sake of argument that you met your ex girlfriend in a club. There she was standing against the wall chatting to her friends. You liked the look of her and so decided to go up to her and say hi. Let the games begin! There are already psychological trigger points being pushed in her head before you have even said a word that are winning her back to you. Remember, you are in a crowded club. There are lots of guys milling about, but you were the one who chose to come and talk to her. The one who had the gumption to say hi. Immediately you are impressing on her subconscious that you are a pack leader.

These days if a woman rejects you the worst that generally happens is a polite refusal, and you slink back to your friends to make up some story about how she was actually a lesbian. But it doesn’t feel like that before you do it. Your heart is pounding, and part of you even now wants to get your girlfriend back simply so that you don’t have to go through that again! Before you approach a woman it generally feels like your guts are being ripped out, and that there is a very real risk of total social exclusion and pariah status if she turns you down. On the converse side, women are also creatures of their biology. In the past they knew that it was a big deal for a guy to approach them, because if he got it wrong, then she could feasibly turn him down and mess up his status within the very small tribal unit.   A few thousand years on she knows logically that that isn’t the case, and that turning a guy down isn’t even going to ruin his night, let alone his life. But nevertheless on a subconscious level she knows it is a big deal.

Women are hence heavily triggered into feelings of attraction to any guy that can pluck up courage and come and say hi. It is almost irrelevant what the final outcome of the interaction is. If you go and say hi, then in her eyes, and in her heart your status amongst that group of males has immediately soared. What this all means for the breakup experience and getting back with your ex is that you need to start to tap into these psychological trigger points that are hard-wired into all of us. You need to show that you are the pack leader. That you are the alpha male of the group, and that yours is a ‘tribe’ that she should want to return to.

A good thing to do once you realise that the power really is in your hands if you present it right is to then come up with a plan of action. This should involve re-establishing contact with her, but always on your terms. It is no good trying to get her back by getting her to analyse your relationship and see how good it used to be. That is a losers approach, and it doesn’t work. The only way she will come back is for emotional reasons. She has to miss you. At this stage take a look at your past relationship through her eyes and try to establish what aspects of the relationship were the ones that really made her enjoy being with you. Once you have come up with an idea of what those are, then amplify those in your re-courtship of her and gradually re-introduce those magic elements without the parts that led you to split up in the first place. If you do that then there is every chance that you will be able to get her back much quicker than you ever imagined possible.